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Tantra for men by men

It seems obvious that gay and bisexual men would consider or think about getting a Tantra massage from another man. However, it also attracts open-minded straight men who are curious and want to experience intimacy with another man. Here’s where you’ll find more on the nuances of Tantra for men by men, our own experiences, which roles dominance and submissiveness play and who most often goes looking for these encounters.


The dynamics of sexual energy between the receiver and giver play an important role during Tantra massage and people often think hard about who they choose as their Tantra massage guide. Naturally, there is a considerable difference between a massage done by a woman and a man. Let's discover some deciding factors influencing the choice of a man selecting another man as a Tantra masseur. 

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Tantra massage for bisexuals and gay men

It is said men usually have less issues intimately opening themselves up to a stranger on a physical level than women. Which could explain why most women choose a masseur according to their direct sexual preferences. In the case of a gay man, the choice of a male masseur feels obvious because his touch and closeness aligns with the receiver’s preferences and attractions, readily awakening the sexual energy Tantra works with during massage. Bisexual men or men who are firmly straight face a more difficult choice; whether to experience female tenderness or a firmer yet pleasant male touch? One decisive factor could be the understanding that a man knows the male body better than a woman, so he has higher chances of spotting what a particular client needs. Based on our experience, another factor is even more important: change. While a bisexual man living with a male partner often prefers a massage by a woman, a man with the same preference living with a female partner - often having a family - seeks change in his life and chooses a male giver for a Tantra massage. That way, both men can explore another part of their sexuality without the stigma of infidelity. 

Tantra massage for straight men  by a men

Most men that are attracted to women might not even consider getting a massage done by another man. Nevertheless, there are many pros - one of which, in my opinion, is better self-understanding. Today, plenty of taboos have been eliminated and some straight men with an open mind want to experiment and try out intimacy with a man just to know what it feels like, to enjoy new feelings and gain new perspective. Tantra massage from a man can be the appropriate entryway into unknown worlds. Even though it is a very intimate and limit-shifting experience, it has firm boundaries and provides a safe framework for understanding one's own feelings and experiences. A receiver can stop a giver whenever they so please and the experience can take place even without the most intimate parts of a massage. If a client wants to share his past experiences or apprehensions, it is proper for a good masseur to be available before and after the massage to discuss all qualms in an intimate and trusting atmosphere. 

Active / passive roles & Tantra massages

A Tantra ritual received from a man can differ in a few other ways. It depends on how you see ‘male’ and ‘female’ roles or activeness and passiveness. No matter who the client gets a massage from, he will assume the passive role of a receiver and can simply enjoy whatever is given to him. Many men take issue with a passive role as they are used to giving and directing intimate moments. When they are taken care of by a woman it can be quite unusual and based on their experience and instincts, they tend to want to please her as well. If a giver is a male masseur, he may be perceived as more dominant and there may be no issue accepting care from him. Some men will then surprisingly enjoy their passive role with a male giver more than being taken care of by a woman. 

Tantra massage for men can be an experience that fully aligns with a particular sexual preference as well as an extraordinary adventure or knowledge source providing a different dynamic than a massage given by a woman. Just like any other massage, it is recommended to take enough time off after the massage to let the experience sink in and think about it in-depth.

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